Slut

Today, I want to talk about sluts and whores.

Now, I know...there are bound to be some feminists out there who are going to cringe at my seemingly capricious use of these typically derogatory words. But I don't care. I happen to think that behaving in a slutty manner in certain contexts and with the right kind of encouragement is a totally fucking hot thing. I'm not talking about the kind of slut who sleeps with random anonymous strangers in gas station bathrooms out of some sort of compulsion. Or the type of person who gives it all up in an attempt to feel better about him or herself and get people to "like them". Those are unhealthy behaviors.

But.

Allowing your inner whore to be unleashed and come out to play in a particular context--there is something very satisfying in that. Are all sluts (closet and otherwise) necessarily hyper-sexual individuals? I don't think so. Hyper-sexual in the sense that the whore is always hot and eager for their partner, that's one thing (and a very good thing, too). Hyper-sexual in a promiscuous sense, well, that's something else and not at all my point here.

There also seems to be a difference in being thought of as "A slut" vs. being referred to as "My slut" or "His/her slut". Once the slutty element is viewed as a trait that is respected, shared, and enjoyed by a partner, sig other or what not, it seems as though any negative connotations are removed. In D/s scenarios, there is a feeling of belonging and ownership. In another way, the submissive partner has been given permission to express their inner whore in a safe, understanding and supportive environment. He or she knows its ok to explore lust with total abandon. That its even desirable to want to do more and have more done to him or her and explore as much slut potential as possible--these are things that make for very erotic, intimate exchanges.

Some notions of being viewed as a "fucktoy", within a consensual context of course, tend to exist primarily in the realm of fantasy. And that's totally cool too. It's hot to talk about or imagine being used as a sexual object for the mere pleasure of other people. Would we all go out and be the centerpiece in a gangbang? Probably not. But there is something extremely fascinating about the way the fantasy of being used for sex seems to be such a turn on for a lot of people.

I catergorize the words slut and whore as ways of defining and appreciating one's sexual energy. I say those words with affection and not at all in a demeaning way. Being a slut actually is more of a mindset than a reference to how many sex partners one has or how much actual sex one engages in. A slut has an attitude that embraces an openness and desire for sexual interaction. Sexuality as a concept is celebrated. Futhermore, I like knowing that I can inspire the inner slut in certain people. I sometimes think I enjoy provoking the slut within others because its a way for me to experience a level of my own slutty self, even vicariously. And little by little, I'm liking the way certain people can tap into that slut vein that runs through me.

How do you celebrate your inner slut?